The OurFamilyWizard Blog
Welcome to the OurFamilyWizard blog. This blog was setup as a forum for the exchange of ideas to help families and the professionals who serve them. Articles within are relevant to Attorneys, Mediators, Judges, Magistrates, Referees, GAL’s, Visitation Expeditors, Parenting Consultants and Parents. Our goal is to create a place where anyone involved in family law can share ideas that could reduce conflict, improve communication, protect children and help move families forward:
- September 16, 2014
- Between Two Homes
You may be divorcing, divorced, never married, a grandparent, or other relative of a child growing up between two homes. For whatever reason you find yourself in the situation of helping a child grow up between two homes, you may be wondering how to do so. Between Two Homes has the answers.
- August 20, 2014
- Managing shared expenses and payments electronically
Parents know that raising kids is a great responsibility that becomes costly very quickly. For those raising children between two homes, keeping track of shared parenting expenses is essential towards promoting financial stability within each home.
- August 14, 2014
- Defining Divorce Types
When a couple makes the decision to divorce, it may not always be clear where to begin with the whole process. Across the United States, there are several approaches that a couple could take when divorcing, and choosing the right method for your case is not a decision to take lightly. While you will want to consult with a family law professional to begin the actual process, you can inform yourself beforehand about the different ways to approach a divorce. Here are few short facts about some common types of divorce:
- July 3, 2014
- Keeping your kids healthy through the divorce process
As a couple, making the decision to divorce or separate is a serious undertaking, especially if children are in the picture. Kids across the globe go through the painful process of divorce and separation along with their parents, experiencing an array of emotions they have not felt before. While the kids had no part in making this decision, the weight of a divorce is carried heavily by parents and their children alike. Each child will react differently to this news, though feelings of anger, confusion, stress and uncertainty are all normal. As a parent, one must take measures to lessen this burden for the family’s youngest members so that they may continue to live healthy lives.
- June 30, 2014
- 4 Ways to Ensure Successful Long Distance Co-Parenting
- By Sandra Mills
In an ideal world, both parents in a divorced or separated family would remain within driving distance of one another post separation. Children have a difficult time as it is after one parent moves out; losing their mom or dad to another state makes it even harder.
- May 16, 2014
- Creating a Holiday Custody Plan
The thought of formulating a custody calendar is a daunting task for many divorced or separated parents. Several factors must be calculated into the agreement before it can be finalized, including a holiday custody plan. Not having a holiday custody plan in place is a catalyst for chaos which could ensue at the worst of times. Parents scrambling in the eleventh hour to decide where the kids will open gifts on Christmas morning or spend their night trick-or-treating can spoil the holiday for everyone. Before letting stress levels rise to high tide, be prepared and organize your holiday custody plan well ahead of time.
- May 14, 2014
- Planning a Stress-Free Summer After Divorce
Summertime gives a new sense of energy to both children and parents alike. With the school year coming to an end, many parents need to plan ahead for activities to keep the kids occupied in the coming months. Some parents may employ child care resources, while others may have one parent or family member staying home with the kids full time. Organizing summer plans isn’t easy for every family, but for those spread across two homes due to divorce, planning can become much more complicated. For divorced or separated parents, prior planning is essential to a stress-free summer for both you and your children.
- January 30, 2014
- How to Handle a Child's Healthcare after Divorce
- By Dr. Charles Bowers
Although each state has its own set of rules unique to the custody and care of children, all states require divorced parents to provide adequate financial support for their children. And although the calculation of what amounts to adequate child support varies by state, both state and federal law require parents to provide healthcare coverage for their dependent children.
- January 24, 2014
- Parenting After Divorce With a Difficult Co-Parent
- By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
Divorce is always more of a challenge for parents. It is possible to be amicable and supportive in co-parenting when both parents can agree on basic parenting principles. On the other hand, when the divorce ends on a hostile note, it can lead to a venomous, high-conflict parenting situation, which in turn can be awfully hard on your children.
- January 17, 2014
- Mobile Shared Parenting with the OFW App
When you and your family are always on the move, your important family agenda and information needs to stay up to date and accessible. Mobile shared parenting tools, like the OurFamilyWizard app, give parents the ability to create and share new entries from nearly anywhere. Pull up your OFW Calendar, and quickly see whose night it is to have the kids or what time your child’s soccer game is over the weekend. Found out that your office has a late meeting next week that will affect your parenting time? Your mobile shared parenting tool lets you pull up your calendar to quickly propose a trade to swap a night with your co-parent.
- January 10, 2014
- Child first, parent second
- By Matt Sossi
Children's ability to adjust to life after divorce is directly linked to their parents ability to minimize conflict. If children constantly see their parents fighting they will suffer as a result of it. Conversely your children will adjust to life after divorce quicker if they know that their mom and dad are working together and are there for them.
- December 23, 2013
- Merry Divorce: Surviving the Holidays
- By Samantha Hopkins
Having grown up in what many would call a ‘broken family’ I’m well aware of the affects divorce can have during the holidays. Regardless of how much you fight it, holidays will be different from how you and your family celebrated them pre-divorce. From the good to the bad and everything in between, the problems that lead to your divorce are going to be further compounded during the holidays, especially when there are children involved.
- December 19, 2013
- Holding Onto Your Money in the 21st Century A.D. (After Divorce)
- By Jared Diamond
Financial security makes you a better parent. Financial security for a young family does not necessarily mean trips to Disneyworld every summer and pizza delivery every night; financial security means paying the bills on time and still having a few dollars – or a few cents – left over for saving and/or splurging.
- October 30, 2013
- Tips for sharing custody of your kids
Focus on your children: Remember the reason you have to deal with your co-parent is because of your amazing children. As difficult as this may be at times, you would not have your child without them. Choose your battles: It’s easy to get engaged; it is much harder to choose not to get engaged. Keep a perspective of the big picture, the minutia can be overwhelming.
- October 14, 2013
- The Keys of Success for Co-Parenting
- By Erica L. Fener, Ph.D.,
The end of a marriage is rife with stress and emotion. Relationships are what bind us to one another, and the end of one can be an extremely stressful time, even in the best of scenarios. Ending a relationship or marriage when children are involved adds a new layer of complexity to the process. When children are involved, communication between the former partners must continue. This can make moving on difficult, but it can be done, and co-parenting best practices include being able to make decisions that are in the best interests of the children. The best interests of the children, simply put, are two parents who can work together in a friendly, civil manner to co-parent effectively.
- October 8, 2013
- Mum and Dad are Splitting Up: BBC2 Documentary
Separation or divorce affects millions of people across the globe, including children of all ages. According to the BBC, one-third of British families are directly affected by divorce. BBC2 recently premiered a documentary that focuses on several families within this statistic and, more specifically, on how the kids remembered their parents’ split. In Mum and Dad are Splitting Up, British director Olly Lambert illustrates how children affected by divorce recall their experience of how it happened years after the fact and how their lives have been affected since.
- September 26, 2013
- Avoid Conflict, Keep Positive Through an Amicable Divorce
- By Heather Woods
Divorce is never easy, even for those trying for an amicable split. You're not alone in this process and, with a bit of humor and an eye on the future, you will get through it. The question you may have, however, is "How can I work with my soon-to-be ex-husband to make this transition go as smoothly as possible for both of us?"
- September 17, 2013
- Healthy Communication Between Divorced Parents
After divorce, communicating with an ex-spouse can be difficult and unpleasant. The ways that you used to communicate with each other may no longer be effective now that your relationship situation has changed. Blowing this issue off right from the beginning is not a healthy route to take, especially when you both are caring for your kids. Healthy communication between divorced parents is possible, and it starts by finding the right tone and method of delivery.
- August 13, 2013
- Back to School: Keeping Both Parents Involved
Your child’s success in school is a primary concern for every parent, and with the start of each school year, new challenges are faced within and outside of the classroom for parents and kids alike. Through meeting teachers and classmates, adjusting to a new daytime routine, and handling homework every night, kids have a lot on their minds as the summer winds down. Parents also experience newfound stress during this transitional period, but divorced or separated parents can find this time of year more difficult to tackle. Much of this anxiety stems from the perception that keeping both parents involved is a non-reality, but taking initiative to plan ahead will help everyone stay in the loop.
- August 7, 2013
- Reestablishing a custody connection.
Sometimes after a divorce or separation, parents can become estranged from their children. In other cases, this relationship was simply unable to flourish because of separation by various reasons such as physical distance. Regardless of the reason for the break in relationship, a tool like the OurFamilyWizard website can help you reestablish a custody connection.
- July 30, 2013
- Personal Money Manager After Divorce
Money is a common point of contention between couples, but divorced or separated parents often face a greater level of conflict and disagreement when it comes to managing shared expenses. With kids in the picture, shared family expenses are inevitable, so properly tracking expenses and reimbursements is necessary in order to maintain financial stability between homes. Using a personal money manager after divorce is a helpful tool to keep co-parents on the same page in terms of joint finances.
- July 18, 2013
- Today's Families are Resilient - not Broken
- By Shawn Briley, LCSW
Although most American families do not meet the criteria of a traditional family, made up of a husband and a wife and their biological children, the remaining majority of non-traditional families continue to be stigmatized as somehow inferior to traditional families. Unfortunately, terms such as broken home imply broken families, broken parents, and broken kids
- July 4, 2013
- Communication Tools for Military Families
Military families encounter challenges that are unique to other families, from dealing with one parent away due to deployment to re-adapting to home life with a full house. These - among numerous related and various other reasons - are factors which sometimes lead to the dissolution of marriages within these families.
- July 2, 2013
- How an Amicable Divorce is the First Step to Effective Co-Parenting
- By Howard Iken
I have seen the same thing over and over again. As a divorce and custody attorney I am part of many different types of parenting situations. One particular type of divorce case has a very distinctive flavor. Those are the cases where the parenting’s fight over every inch of parenting rights, fight to the end of the case, and then periodically go back to court for the next decade. These types of cases are not rare, have predictable causes, and are always sad to see.
- June 26, 2013
- Ex Not Picking Up the Kids on Time
Co-parenting after divorce creates many new challenges for families, one of which being the need to coordinate schedules between two homes. Keeping your kids on a consistent schedule is key to maintaining a routine, yet it’s not always easy to keep your kids on time when one parent struggles to communicate in a timely manner. If your ex is not picking up the kids on time, employing a co-parenting tool like OurFamilyWizard can be beneficial in documenting and keeping your ex accountable for this issue.
- June 13, 2013
- Co-Parenting on Father's Day
With school wrapping up and summer already in our grasp, Father’s Day is on the horizon. To commemorate the day, families taking a little extra time to show Dad how much he is loved and appreciated. When parents are living in separate homes, trying to coordinate plans for this Father’s Day can be a catalyst for conflict. Father’s Day is meant to be a time for celebration, so take these tips into consideration as you finalize your plans for this year.
- June 12, 2013
- Co-Parenting Tools
Co-parenting after divorce can be easy if you employ the right co-parenting tools. For over 12 years, the OurFamilyWizard Website has been helping divorced or separated parents communicate about critical issues regarding their children. OFW has proven so effective that courts throughout the United States and Canada order it by name.
- May 13, 2013
- Mobile Shared Co-Parenting Tools
Smart phones are surely setting a standard for what consumers expect in their cell phones. These “mini-computers” make accessing all kinds of information via the Internet fast and easy. Sometimes, they even replace the need for an actual desktop or laptop computer. The OurFamilyWizard Website recognizes the popularity of smart phone usage and has created easy-to-use mobile apps that make using this divorced or shared parenting tool easy and available everywhere.
- May 10, 2013
- Dispelling Common Divorce Myths
- By Alan Brady
Divorce is a complicated process, and the rules surrounding it vary from state to state. Because of the complexity of navigating these rules, and the fact that emotions are usually running high during the actual process, quite a few myths have sprung up over the years, and several have become so widespread that they’re commonly understood to be ‘fact.’ These misconceptions range from relatively harmless to incredibly damaging, and understanding the realities surrounding divorce can be the best way to protect yourself.
- May 7, 2013
- Tips for Celebrating Mother's Day After Divorce
Mother’s Day is a special time for families to express how much love and appreciation they have for their mothers, but this day can also stir up mixed emotions if a family is dealing with a separation or divorce. Planning for Mother’s Day after divorce can cause stress or tension between parents and other family members, yet this is a great day to show your kids that even if parents are not together, everyone acknowledges and respects Mom’s role in the family. Here are some tips to help every family member to make celebrating Mother’s Day after divorce enjoyable for everyone.
- April 25, 2013
- "But Dad Said I Could!" Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents
- By Dr. David Walsh
“I asked mom and she already said it was okay for me to go out with my friends tonight.” “But dad never makes me do my homework before I play video games!” Sound familiar? Parenting across two households can be a real challenge. Working through the pain of ending a committed relationship into a working relationship that benefits our kids is hard work for divorced parents. Among the biggest challenges to navigate are differences in parenting styles, and in particular, your approach to discipline.
- April 16, 2013
- Determining Child Custody for Never Married Parents
Not all co-parents have to be divorced to share custody and other parenting responsibilities. Never married parents face similar issues to parents who are going through a divorce, yet some challenges are more complex in a never married parenting situation, such as determining child custody. Here are some important points that never married parents must consider:
- April 8, 2013
- Co-parenting tools for separated parents: OurFamilyWizard Message Board
In the digital age, methods of communication have evolved to fit the needs of our technological world. Emails and text messages are two particular innovations that make it easier for divorced or separated parents to communicate important family details between homes. While convenient, emails can be lost in cyberspace, and texts can be deleted or sent to a wrong number. In a contentious situation with a co-parent, keeping a full and accurate record of communication can be very important. To prevent these issues, the OurFamilyWizard Message Board is a useful tool to aid in communication when accuracy is imperative for divorced or separated parents.
- March 29, 2013
- Co-parenting tools for separated parents: OurFamilyWizard Calendar
Separated parenting situations are not easy to manage. Many scheduling details end up getting lost in the shuffle when kids are moving between homes, making organization a key piece to managing your family’s schedule successfully. The OurFamilyWizard Website offers a simple solution to this all-too-common issue: a shared family calendar to make it simple for parents to stay on track with their family’s hectic schedule.
- March 12, 2013
- Creating a winning co-parenting plan
At the start, divorce feels like a win/lose situation. One parent may seem to have it all on paper, while the other struggles to make ends meet. On the flip side, the parent who seemingly has it all finds that they have little time to spend with their kids, while the other parent is with them all the time.
- March 4, 2013
- Tips to co-parenting after divorce
After a divorce, the idea of communicating with an ex may seem near to impossible. While dealing with that person is the last thing you feel like doing, trying to build an amicable relationship with that person is the best thing you can do for your children. Setting your strong emotions and frustrations aside might appear to be a stressful, fruitless task, but the benefits take time to emerge.
- February 18, 2013
- Planning for spring break
The week of spring break is often a busy one for a family. Whether you plan to go on a family vacation or stay home with a full house, there is lots of planning that must be done by parents in order to coordinate the family’s schedule with this week. Planning for spring break can feel twice as complex when your children’s time is split between two homes.
- February 12, 2013
- Moving out after divorce
Many changes take place during a divorce, and often times, it will involve parents establishing a new definition of “family home.” When a family is dealing with divorce, usually only one of the two parents will be moving out of the family home. In this situation, planning out how the transition will go down is a serious decision that includes several factors, such as what will happen to the family home and, if the home is kept, deciding which parent will be moving out after divorce.
- February 8, 2013
- Keeping two happy homes
After divorce or separation, happiness may seem like a distant goal. At first, it is very difficult for parents and children alike to cope with the new layout of the family. Many things begin to change, from family holidays to family vocabulary. As these changes take place, parents must find new ways to communicate and work together to raise their children as one family unit separated between two happy homes.
- January 16, 2013
- Is it my turn or your turn?
Trying to handle this when your family is split between two homes with a custody schedule involved makes it even more difficult to keep everything straight. Both you and your co-parent need to know one thing quickly and accurately: is it my turn or your turn?
- January 14, 2013
- Communication breakdowns post divorce
Communication breakdowns post divorce are a familiar side effect of a contentious break up involving children, but it is important to find some sort of middle ground and methods of constructive ways to speak for the sake of helping your kids deal with the split.
- December 11, 2012
- Tips for keeping your kids on time
For kids, most of the way their time is spent is predetermined. From the beginning to end of their day, parents are typically the most important facilitators of time management for their young child. Parents will help wake them up on time, get them to the bus stop, remind them to finish all of their homework, put them to bed, and then the cycle continues the following day. The ability to manage our time is not a skill we are born with, but it is something that is instilled within us as we grow up. Keeping your kids on time by creating a routine, having them talk out their plans, and teaching them how to tell time and use a calendar are three steps parents may take over time to illustrate the importance of time management as they grow up.
- December 4, 2012
- Coordinating child custody during holidays
As we roll into December, the holiday season goes into full swing. With all of the joy and festiveness that comes with this time of year, few people are immune to the stresses that also come along with the holidays. Finding the perfect gifts for your loved ones, decorating your home, and organizing holiday plans with family can often cause more anxiety than holiday cheer. Plans can become further complicated when custody issues arise. Defining important holidays, early planning, and documenting your holiday schedule in writing are crucial factors when coordinating child custody during holidays.
- November 27, 2012
- Creating provisions for your parenting agreement
Making the switch from a cohesive family unit into a separated co-parenting situation is an emotional process. In this transition period, parents are encountering many new and difficult challenges, but the well being of your child must be kept at the forefront of your mind. When formulating your parenting agreement, creating provisions will help to maintain your individual rights and values as a parent.
- October 29, 2012
- Interstate Parenting Plans
A family moving to a new state faces many initial challenges like taking in the new surroundings, finding a new school for the kids, and making new friends. While transporting the entire family somewhere new is not easy, the situation can be further complicated if only one parent is moving states. One parent moving states while the processes of or after a divorce is not uncommon, as many parents move in order to go to school, to take a new job or to be closer to extended family. It is critical to have an interstate parenting plan to support your child’s best interests and to defend your parental rights.
- August 31, 2012
- Broken Circle Children of Divorce
Broken Circle - Children of Divorce is a collaboration between me, the photographer, and young adults age 18 to 24, from divorced families who have offered their personal narratives in response to my questions about how their parents’ divorce has impacted them and their thinking in regard to relationships and commitment in their own lives.
- August 8, 2012
- Right of First Refusal
Right of first refusal in custody situations commonly means that one parent must first offer the other parent the opportunity to look after their kids before contacting a babysitter or another family member to care for the children.
- July 12, 2012
- Maintaining a Relationship With Both Sides of the Family
There is nothing more important and comforting than family. This is a feeling that almost anyone can relate to. After a divorce or separation these feelings may begin to fade. Co-parents and divorced couples often have troubles maintaining a relationship with both sides of the family. A divorce can spark a lot of tension and conflict between family members. No matter what your feelings are towards the other side of the family you must remember to keep the best interest of your child in mind.
- July 2, 2012
- Custody Agreements for Military Families
When one or both parents are in the military family life can be difficult. Free time to spend with the family may be hard to come by. When military families go through a divorce things only become complicated further. Military families face additional challenges when it comes to creating an effective custody agreement. Custody agreements for military families must also reflect the unique nature of their situation.
- June 29, 2012
- Vote for the OurFamilyWizard website
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- June 25, 2012
- The Importance of Family Mediators
Family mediation is not really a new concept. These family mediators have been turned to for guidance for settling disputes for any type of situation. A mediator is really a very general term used to describe a third-party individual who is asked to oversee a situation as a whole and possibly make comments or suggestions. In many cases this mediator may simply be a friend, family member, or even a nearby person, depending on the severity of the situation. Co-parents who have gone through a divorce often need a more reliable solution; someone more professional. This is why we must understand the importance of family mediators.
- June 5, 2012
- Negotiating Your Custody Agreement
Co-parents who choose to create their own custody agreement are often happier with their decision in the long run than co-parents who do not. Creating your own custody agreement gives you the freedom to decide how you and your co-parent will divide custody, how visitation time will be awarded, what kind of custody schedule will be implemented, and so on. This may sound very appealing but the process is a lot of work and you and your co-parent must work very closely with one another. After some time you may come to realize that negotiating your custody agreement with your co-parent is an essential part of the process.
- June 4, 2012
- Including Provisions in Your Custody Agreement
A child custody agreement is an extremely important document that will largely influence your life as a co-parent. Child custody agreements essentially lay out how you, your co-parent, and your child will be living your daily lives. For this reason, you and your co-parent must ensure that the rules of raising your child are clearly defined in the document. Including provisions in your custody agreement is a good way to thoroughly cover every aspect of your responsibilities as co-parents.
- June 1, 2012
- Tips for Successful Co-Parenting
Parenting is definitely not an easy task. If you throw divorce into the mix parenting becomes even more complicated if it’s turned into co-parenting. There are many resources that parents and co-parents can turn to in order to help guide them through their parenting journey. Yes, these books may be extremely helpful in theory, but when it comes to actual parenting the best way we learn is by trial and error.
- May 31, 2012
- Divorce and Social Networks
Social networks such as Facebook and Twitter are gaining popularity among society and are becoming more commonplace in our daily lives. Although the benefits of social networking tools such as these can be great there are also many dangers that come with them that may not be so obvious. These dangers are becoming more apparent for couples going through a divorce and also for co-parents who have previously gone through divorce. Divorce and social networks should be handled with caution.
- May 24, 2012
- Reduce Stress During the Holidays with Holiday Custody Arrangements and Visitation Schedules
The holidays are always a stressful time for everyone regardless of if they are divorced and have children to take care of. Co-parents often feel this stress even more so than other families because of the added work they have to do around the holidays. Extreme amounts of coordination are required by both co-parents in order to have a successful holiday. Help yourself to reduce stress during the holidays with holiday custody arrangements and visitation schedules.
- May 22, 2012
- Are You Ready to Juggle Dating and Your Custody Schedule?
Dating can be a very fun and exciting experience that can sometimes lead to a life long relationship with a loved one. Many co-parents turn to dating in order to get their life back on track and help them move on after a divorce. Many people don’t realize that this can be potentially dangerous in some situations. There are a number of repercussions that can occur if you do not handle the dating situation appropriately. Your divorce and custody schedule will play a critical role in your ability to date. You have to ask yourself are you ready to juggle dating and your custody schedule?
- May 17, 2012
- Every Weekend and 2-2-3 Visitation Schedules
Child custody and visitation can be a very confusing topic to comprehend. There are so many different types of custody and visitation schedules out there that all have their own benefits and downfalls. Many co-parents and family law professionals have their own opinions on which type of custody schedule works best but to be honest, choosing the best type of custody and visitation schedule for your family is totally dependant on your specific situation. Every weekend and 2-2-3 visitation schedules are gaining popularity and should definitely be given some consideration for your own situation.
- May 16, 2012
- Redefining Your Partnership Through Your Basic Parenting Plan
For many divorced couples, the thought of ending your intimate and romantic relationship in exchange for a cooperative co-parenting relationship can be very difficult to comprehend. Until recently, the only type of relationship that you’ve had has been an intimate one. Building a new relationship around your children and your responsibilities as parents is your new task. Redefining your partnership through your basic parenting plan is a good place to begin this process.
- May 15, 2012
- 4-3 Visitation and Custody Schedules
Visitation and child custody schedules can be a very complex topic. Many family law professionals and co-parents favor a certain type of visitation and custody schedule for the benefits that it brings to them but there are numerous different types of visitation and custody schedules that are out there. 4-3 visitation and custody schedules are one of the more popular options that co-parents usually opt for when determining their physical custody schedule.
- May 14, 2012
- Assigned Weekends Schedules
There are so many different options available for co-parents in terms of custody schedules. Each and every custody schedule has its own positives and negatives. Many family law professionals have their own opinions on which types of custody schedules work the best but in reality you must choose one that you will be able to implement easily and effectively. Assigned weekends schedules are a specific type of custody schedule created for certain situations.
- May 10, 2012
- Misconceptions About Custody Schedules for Infants
There are many misconceptions about custody schedules for infants made by many family law professionals as well as co-parents. It’s important for co-parents to fully understand the needs of their infant especially during their early developmental stages. After understanding this, co-parents are able to tailor their custody schedule in a way that might differ from what was previously thought to be an acceptable custody schedule for infants.
- May 8, 2012
- Parenting Plan for Infants
Creating a parenting plan can be a very difficult task for co-parents to accomplish. A lot of preparation and planning must go into creating an effective parenting plan; after all it will most likely be in effect for a long time. Many co-parents sharing an infant believe that a parenting plan is not essential yet because of the age of their child but this is not true. A parenting plan for infants is an important step to a successful relationship with your child and co-parent.
- May 7, 2012
- Reorganizing Your Family After a Divorce with a Parenting Plan
Transitioning from an intimate and emotional relationship with your spouse to becoming co-parents can be a very difficult task. Instead of putting any effort into the relationship all of your effort should be put into meeting the needs of your children. Focus on reorganizing your family after a divorce with a parenting plan. An effective parenting plan can help you to get the lives of you and your family members back on track.
- May 4, 2012
- Vacations and Parenting Plans
Vacations can be a very good opportunity for co-parents to spend time and bond with their child. The only problem is that vacations can be a very difficult thing to plan around your defined parenting plan. Vacations and parenting plans often conflict with one another, which is why it is very important for co-parents to setup certain rules regarding vacations that will be defined in their parenting plan.
- April 19, 2012
- Preparing a Parenting Plan for Court
A parenting plan is seen as a legal document describing the terms of your child custody agreement. A parenting plan is also seen as a necessary tool for co-parents in order to successfully parent their child in all situations. It is a valuable reference tool for co-parents to use as they encounter parenting challenges. Before a parenting plan can be implemented it must be reviewed and approved by a family court. Preparing a parenting plan for court can be a very challenging and stressful task for any co-parent.
- April 16, 2012
- Income Withholding Orders
- By Cindy Holdren, Employer Services Team, Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement
Information Alert - Effective June 1, 2012 all Income Withholding Orders requiring an employer to withhold payments, including those issued by court and private attorneys, must direct payments to the State Disbursement Unit
- April 13, 2012
- Creating Custody Agreements for Pre-Teenagers
An effective child custody agreement is an important part of any successful family of divorce. Designing the perfect custody agreement that is in the best interest of everyone in the family is difficult to do and can take years of refining. One of the biggest problems that many co-parents find with their custody agreements is that they must constantly be changing. As children get older their needs change along with them, which means that the current custody agreement must also change to reflect that. Custody agreements for pre-teenagers are difficult to perfect but are also a necessity.
- April 10, 2012
- Creating Custody Agreements for Teenagers
Raising a teenager can be a lot of work, which is especially true for divorced parents. One of the key factors to effectively parenting your teen during this time is to have a strong custody agreement that both you and your co-parent can depend on for support. Custody agreements for teenagers can be very unstable in many cases but it’s necessary to find what works for everyone in the family in order to be successful.
- April 5, 2012
- How do you rebuild when your relationship ends?
- By Kristine Turner, Ph.D.
One of the most helpful pieces of information I got while going through my own divorce was to LEARN from my previous relationships. There is no such thing as failure in relationships, only lessons that you haven’t learned yet. You CAN create a new life, a new chapter, and new relationships filled with love, potential, and hope.
- April 3, 2012
- Parental Alienation and Children Exhibiting Visitation Refusal Behaviour - Part 2
- By Joseph Goldberg
There are multiple explanations for parental rejection in separated and divorcing families. In this dynamic, children and the parents they reject often struggle over a declining relationship and dissipating contact.
- April 2, 2012
- Parental Alienation and Children Exhibiting Visitation Refusal Behaviour
- By Joseph Goldberg
There are multiple explanations for parental rejection in separated and divorcing families. In this dynamic, children and the parents they reject often struggle over a declining relationship and dissipating contact.
- March 5, 2012
- Joint Custody Arrangements
Joint custody is a concept that has been gaining a lot of popularity from co-parents and family law professionals alike. Joint custody arrangements are most often seen as being in the best interest of the child. Many family law professionals favor joint custody arrangements because both co-parents are required to play an active role in raising their child. It has been found to be beneficial to the child when both co-parents are active in the parenting process.
- February 29, 2012
- OurFamilyWizard Featured on NBC 4 in Washington DC
OurFamilyWizard Featured on NBC 4 in Washington DC in story titled: "Divorced Couples Forced to Co-Parent Online"
- February 21, 2012
- Joint Custody Visitation Rights
Joint custody is a specific type of custody arrangement where both co-parents share custody of their child. In this case, both co-parents will play an active role in parenting their child. Visitation rights is a term that is usually used to describe a co-parent who is not awarded custody of the child in situations where joint custody is not awarded to both co-parents. Joint custody visitation rights still exist and are actually a very important issue to define in your joint custody parenting plan.
- February 20, 2012
- A Dad's Dilemma
- By Leo Averbach
When my marriage hit the rocks I was the father of three children, aged 16, 13, and 9. My wife Paula had got involved with another guy; we were floundering, uncertain what to do next. I was totally shattered and torn between two conflicting impulses: to leave or to stay.
- February 15, 2012
- Parenting Intermediary
Effectively parenting your children after a divorce is definitely not an easy task. There are many different types of mediation for divorced couples that may offer different styles of support. Although there are many different types of mediation that you can use, they all offer significant benefits for divorced parents. Utilizing a parenting intermediary to improve you as co-parents is always highly recommended.
- February 13, 2012
- Myths About OurFamilyWizard - Message Board
There has always been some skepticism about the OurFamilyWizard website® and the benefits that it brings to co-parents. It is always common in competitive industries for myths and rumors to form about each participant. We are never surprised when we hear myths about OurFamilyWizard, but we would like to convey to co-parents everywhere that they are just that, myths. This article will serve to clear up some misconceptions that we have been encountering for years.
- February 8, 2012
- Myths About OurFamilyWizard - Calendar
There has always been some skepticism about the OurFamilyWizard website® and the benefits that it’s online tools bring to co-parents. It is always common in competitive industries for myths and rumors to form about the participants. We are never surprised when we hear myths about OurFamilyWizard, but we would like to convey to co-parents everywhere that they are just that, myths. This article will serve to clear up some misconceptions about the OurFamilyWizard Calendar that we have been encountering for years.
- February 7, 2012
- Joint Custody Parenting Plan
Child custody is an extremely important thing to focus on for co-parents who are going through a divorce. For many, the issue of custody is pushed into the back of their minds simply because they are caught up in their own drama with the divorce case. Co-parents must remember that overall, it is most likely that their children will be most affected by the divorce in general. Agreeing on a type of custody and forming a parenting plan are the most important steps to accomplish. A joint custody parenting plan is typically favored by most co-parents and professionals, and we’ll explain why.
- February 2, 2012
- Divorcing Parents
Divorce seems to have become a common occurrence in society. The number of divorces that occur within the United States is staggering. Although this may not be a very pleasant issue to think about, we cannot overlook the fact that it’s a reality. For couples who have gone through divorce or are thinking of getting a divorce, the best thing that you can do is prepare yourselves and do what you can to lessen the emotional damage that is done to you and your family. Divorcing parents have a great responsibility to themselves and especially their children.
- January 30, 2012
- Divorced Parents and Teens
Divorce is often a very sensitive issue to deal with in a family setting. It can break up families in more ways than one and leave everyone involved damaged. There is really no such thing as being good at divorcing; therefore the best thing that co-parents can do is seek out help from family law professionals specializing in divorce and child custody. Putting divorced parents and teens together is a difficult mix. Many divorced parents make simple mistakes when dealing with their teens and often cause more harm than good.
- January 24, 2012
- Can You Really "Win" Child Custody?
There are many controversial topics that arise within the family law industry, a lot of which have to do with divorce and child custody. After being in the industry for a number of years it is common to run into these topics, especially on the Internet where anyone and everyone is able to voice their opinions. It’s easy for readers to be misled by untruthful articles and blogs that pop up everyday surrounding issues of divorce and child custody. One of the most common issues that arise poses the question can you really “win” child custody? This is an important question but many sources seem to be answering it incorrectly.
- January 20, 2012
- Divorce in the Family
Divorce can be a very difficult issue to deal with. It can take a toll on everyone that’s involved emotionally and physically. It is in the opinion of many people that a divorce in the family is one of the most damaging blows that can occur in a household. Since a divorce in the family is already extremely damaging its up to both co-parents to work together to protect the welfare of their children. Helping your children to cope during this difficult time could potentially benefit the health and wellbeing of your children.
- December 22, 2011
- Child Custody Relocation
Child custody relocation can be a very sensitive issue. Many co-parents misinterpret this issue to have malicious intent but this is typically not the case. Most custodial parents choose to move to pursue a better job, be closer with their family, or just start a new life in a new place. In any case, child custody relocation should not be taken lightly.
- December 21, 2011
- Child Custody Evaluation
Child custody evaluations are a very common process. Although the purpose of all custody evaluations are to ensure that the needs of your child are met as best they can, it can still be a very nerve racking ordeal for co-parents to experience. It is important for co-parents to understand the basic details of what goes into a child custody evaluation to prepare for the process.
- December 19, 2011
- Divorce Kids and Custody
Divorce can be a very emotionally difficult time for everyone in the family, especially for your children. It is extremely important to treat the situation with care for the sake of the emotional health and wellbeing of your children. Divorce kids are often portrayed in the media as being emotionally tainted and full of anger towards their parents, but this definitely doesn’t have to be the case. If you handle your situation appropriately, your divorce and custody may have a less damaging effect on your children.
- December 16, 2011
- Divorce, Parents, and Children
Divorce is a very difficult time for everyone who is involved in the situation. Remembering that you are not the only one having a hard time dealing with the situation is important. Divorcing parents often shut everyone else out of their lives and only focus on themselves when they are going through a difficult divorce. After a divorce, both parents and children need the proper amount of attention to cope with this difficult issue.
- December 14, 2011
- Divorce Can Affect Long-Term Happiness in Children
Divorce is never easy to deal with for anyone involved. The ordeal has the ability to cause major disruptions within any family. It is often said by family law professionals that the emotional and psychological effects that divorce can have on a person are magnified when applied to children. Most professionals believe that divorce can affect long-term happiness in children if not handled properly. It is up to the co-parents to handle their situation appropriately for the sake of their children’s health and wellbeing.
- December 12, 2011
- Types of Child Custody
Child custody can often be a very confusing subject to comprehend. There are so many legal and professional terms that anyone who has never gone through a custody case would have a hard time understanding. Once everything is broken down the different types of child custody are easier to understand. This is especially important for divorced parents who are going through a custody case to understand. Getting lost in all of the legal talk can be a very dangerous thing.
- December 7, 2011
- Child Support and Joint Custody
Child custody often comes into question when dealing with a joint custody case. Most co-parents do not often relate the two with one another or they simply rule out the issue of child support because they feel that joint custody should not include any child support. The reality is that many custody agreements will include both child support and joint custody even though they may seem to be conflicting ideas.
- December 5, 2011
- Child Custody Agreement
Divorce is a very sensitive subject and can be a very difficult time for any family. When you and your ex-spouse have children with one another it brings a lot of new complications and obstacles into the mix. It’s the job of the co-parents to make sure that the best interest of their children is held above all else in a divorce and custody case. The best way for co-parents to ensure that the needs of their child are being met is to put the necessary time and effort into creating and implementing the proper child custody agreement.
- December 2, 2011
- Child Custody Questions
Child custody is very complex and can often be a confusing issue to those who are not familiar with the details involved. The common person will most likely be unaware of the issues and details involving child custody unless they are going through a divorce or custody case themselves. In order to clear things up for the confused co-parent we have comprised a list of commonly asked child custody questions. Please be aware that child custody laws and practices often vary by state or county so it is extremely important to consult with a family law professional in your area before taking any legal action or following advice from non-professionals.
- December 1, 2011
- OurFamilyWizard works on both MAC and PC
For years and years there have been debates about which is better and easier to use for consumers, MAC computers or PC computers. Advocates for MAC computers often argue that their platform is extremely elegant and user friendly while PC computers are often seen as powerful and more customizable. One of the biggest questions that arise when is comes to software and applications is compatibility. Whether or not a program will work on a MAC computer and not a PC computer, and vice versa. With the OurFamilyWizard website® and tools there is no need to worry, they will work seamlessly on both MAC and PC computers!